Saturday, April 4, 2015

Kids or no kids: A debate that goes beyond parenting

The reality of choice
Perfect layout in today's Globe for Nathalie Atkinson's review of the book Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed: Sixteen Writers on the Decision Not to Have Kids!

I loved the columnist's insight showing that what's at hand here goes beyond the kids-no kids debate. It's about the reality of living with ANY choice.

I had bought into the analysis of the feminists from the 70s that the media had created a "mommy war". Now, it appears that a more pernicious thing was created: the "fantasy that it's possible to live without regrets", which leads us to assume that if I have any regrets, it must be because I made the wrong choice. As if anything in life was that clear-cut! 

Maybe this explains why choosing always seemed excruciating to my young daughter. We never acknowledged that it was normal to feel a pang of pain (have some small regrets) when choosing a Beenie Baby over another. The fact is that no "better" choice could avoid her that pain... 

Food for thoughts.

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